Why can’t I remember my dreams?
This is something a friend of mine asked me the other day. The truth is, most of us dream consistently once we hit the REM stage of sleep; yet, why is it that the majority of people can only remember a portion of their dreams? My husband, for example, never remembers what he dreams. Now, I know he is dreaming because he talks in his sleep, yet when he gets up he cannot recall even the smallest part. As a child, he remembers having a terrible dream while he was sick one time in the hospital. In that moment, he says that he woke up and said, “I never want to dream again!” Our spoken words are so powerful. Fear from the enemy is a huge factor in causing us to encounter hindrances and road blocks in our spiritual fulfillment (whether it be dreams, revelation, words from the Lord, etc.) I am a big dreamer. I always have been, and yet there are still mornings when I wake up without remembering even the briefest segment of a dream. Is this a big deal? No, and as I’ve stated before I am not led on a daily basis by my dreams; however, my spirit hungers to hear from the LORD consistently. I pray for spiritual dreams, for the LORD to speak to me in every area of my life. I crave those moments when I wake up and realize that the LORD has given me a distinct message to pray over and search out through His almighty Word. Whether this is important to you or not, it is important to know that there are some definitive things, hindrances, which can keep us from receiving the fullness of our spiritual inheritance.
3 D’s | Hindrances To Spiritual Fulfillment?
In my last Dream Workshop I talked about journaling to help retain revelation, but what happens if you can’t even remember what you dreamed the night before? There are some main hindrances that can come against us in our waking life that will definitely stop the flow of the spirit. These are areas that affect not only our night time dreams, but in our waking life we face many of these areas that can easily affect our ministry, our relationships, our spiritual fulfillment through prophetic words, our prayer time, etc.
- Distractions: I don’t know about you, but my life is super busy. Especially once summer is over and school starts back. New routines have to be set, prayer time gets a little tighter, my writing gets shifted into a different time slot, life just overwhelms and drains. The scripture that states, “the little foxes that spoil the vine,” is so true. Many times, little areas can distract and cause our mindset to become too cluttered. This carries over into our restful, night-time period. The distractions can cause us to become spiritually drained, and make it often difficult to remember our dreams. This is especially true (something I have learned lately) if we have a tendency to take our phones to bed. By filtering through newfeeds, etc right before we go to sleep, it becomes like a technical overload, and in my case at least, it has proven to be a distraction that leaves my mind so cluttered that I can’t even remember what I dreamed during the night.
2. Disbelief: I met another homeschool mom around eight years ago at a group meeting for homeschoolers. We clicked right away and ended up planning fun and educational time for our kids to hang out together. During one of our outings, we began to share scriptures, thoughts, and prayers. I was a little shocked when she pulled out a long list of things that she wanted to discuss with me. On the very top of the list was “God does not speak to people anymore.” I was shocked because I had just heard from the LORD regarding some situations I was praying over just that morning. I remember thinking, how sad! Many people just do not believe that God will speak into their lives. They do not trust the voice of the Holy Spirit, and they feel that God is much to big to care about them in a personal way. In the Word it tells us that God is the same yesterday, today, and forever. That means that He does not change. So, if He will speak in the Old and New Testament, why wouldn’t He speak today? If He spoke through dreams in the Bible then why wouldn’t He speak through them today? Faith comes by hearing and hearing by the Word of God (Rom. 10:17).
Disbelief often creates a hardened ear and a hardened heart. Jesus said, “For the hearts of this people have grown dull. Their ears are hard of hearing and their eyes they have closed, Lest they should see with their eyes and hear with their ears, lest they should understand with their hearts and turn, so that I should heal them” (Matt. 13:15). Remember the man who cried out to Jesus, “I do believe; help my unbelief!” We all have times when we feel like God is silent, our prayers are not getting answered, our faith feels weak, or the waiting is unbearable, but in all these things we must remember that we serve and All-Knowing, All-Seeing God, and the WORD tells me that nothing is impossible or too hard for God. He desires to give us revelation, the “mysteries of the kingdom of heaven” (Matt. 13:11), if only we will believe. I urge you to ask the LORD to show you, if you are having doubts today. Ask Him to give you a dream that you will remember and understand that speaks directly over your situation. Seek the Holy Spirit to pour out divine revelation into your heart or through Gods wonderful word. He is faithful and just, and He says whoever asks it will be given, to him who seeks then he will find, and to him who knocks then the door will be opened.
3. Discouragement: Satan is the father of lies, and his goal is to steal, kill, and destroy in your life. If he can make you distracted and full of disbelief then his next step is to create a spirit of discouragement within you. Discouragement always leads to disinterest. The pattern is a continuous cycle. Have you ever gotten discouraged in church? On a job? A marriage? I have. Many years ago I took on a leadership area within the ministry I attended. While working in this area, I was constantly finding myself coming against one road block after another. I couldn’t ever seem to get any help or encouragement from fellow members. I began to feel alone and tired. I felt like it wasn’t worth the effort I was putting in to it anymore. I felt like no one else cared about this area as much as I did, and I was alone in my endeavor. I began to complain to friends and family. The things I was speaking began to become more and more of a reality. I was extremely tired physically and emotionally. The more lies the enemy whispered into my ear the more I felt like just throwing in the towel. I became disinterested in doing the service I had signed up for, and it carried over into my spiritual life as well. I became disinterested in going to church, reading the word, spending time in prayer. Do you see the progressive pattern? I was allowing the enemy to disillusion me and hiss terrible lies into my mind. I wasn’t dreaming. I wasn’t hearing from the LORD. I felt very bleak and depressed. Then, one afternoon (about a year after this started) a friend of mine (who did not attend the same church as me) sent me a Word that she had heard for me from the LORD during her prayer time that morning. When I read through it, I began to cry. It shook me out of my deep complacency because no one knew my most inner thoughts of bleak despair. That word was spot on, and I knew that the LORD was waking me up out of the spiritual coma I had allowed myself to fall into. I repented for my disbelief and discouragement, and that night I had a dream. I saw the area where I had allowed the enemy to come in and deceive me, and I saw myself steeped into the muck and mire, constrained, unable to move and sinking deeper and deeper. A spiritual vampire had come to suck the life out of me. Leviticus 17:11 says that “the life of the flesh is in the blood. . .” My “life”, my joy, peace, happiness, was being sucked away. Yet, the LORD rescued me from the miry pit and set my feet upon a rock because He loved me that much. He loves you that much!
He is so faithful and so good! Even in my darkest hour, He never left me nor did He forsake me. No matter what you are going through, I encourage you to seek His face. If you are in a season of doubt and discouragement, be like the man in the Bible and cry out, “Lord, I believe! Help my unbelief!” We all have seasons where we are faltering or wandering around feeling unsure. Even Thomas, a man that walked with the physical Jesus and talked with Him still came into a moment of doubt after the resurrection. He wanted physical proof, not just the teachings, that Jesus was alive and well. He told the other disciples, “Unless I see in His hands the print of the nails, and put my finger into the print of the nails, and put my hand into His said, I will not believe” (John 20:24). Pretty distinct proof, right? I mean, he was so specific and wanted to know down the barest detail. So what did Jesus do? Did He ridicule Thomas for disbelief? Did He say, “You know better! You know what My Word says. You know exactly what I have been teaching to you and the others!”
No! Instead, Jesus went to Thomas in a loving manner and said, “Reach your finger here, and look at My hands: and reach your hand here, and put it into My side. Do not be unbelieving, but believing.’ . . . Thomas, because you have seem Me, you have believed. Blessed are those who have not seen and yet have believed.” (John 20:27, 29). Wow! He answered every one of Thomas’ questions with simple, loving proof. How much more will He do for those who have not seen, and yet they believe?
I encourage you today, be strong and courageous in the LORD. He is fighting for you. Allow Him to soften those hardened places and open up your heart, mind, and eyes to HIS glorious revelation. I pray that He begins to give you dreams again (physical and spiritual). I pray that He begins to speak a Word clearly and decisively in your heart during your prayer time.
Have you ever been discouraged and felt like giving up? Has it affected your prayer time, spiritual fulfillment, your dreams? Share with us a way that you overcame those 3 D’s (discouragement, disinterest, disbelief). If you are still in the middle of discouragement then share with us an area you feel the most oppressed in right now so that we can pray with you and for you. Be blessed!